CARY TENNIS lives in San Francisco and writes a weekly advice column for Salon.com. In the 1980s he played in the rock band the Repeat Offenders. A collection of his columns, Since You Asked: The Best of Salon.com’s Cary Tennis, is available in stores and through his website.

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Since You Asked

by Cary Tennis, January 2009 (Issue 397)